About Miia
I’ve always been curious about what happens between people.
Why are we drawn to certain people and not others? Why can something feel so right — even when we know it probably isn’t? Why does desire flourish in some relationships and quietly disappear in others? And how much of what we want is actually ours, rather than something we’ve learned we should want?
That curiosity has shaped my work for almost two decades.
From London Matchmaking to Sexology
My professional journey in dating and relationships began in London almost two decades ago.
I spent around 15 years working within the London dating and matchmaking world, including 11 years as a Senior Matchmaker at Drawing Down the Moon, one of the UK’s longest-established matchmaking agencies.
I worked with ambitious, intelligent, often highly successful people who, despite everything they had achieved, could still find love and intimacy surprisingly complicated.
And I kept noticing the same thing.
Finding a partner isn’t just about strategy — although strategy can certainly help.
It’s also about attraction, attachment, self-worth and desire. The patterns we repeat. What our nervous system interprets as chemistry. What we find exciting. What makes us pull closer — or suddenly pull away. And how safe it feels to genuinely be seen by another person.
Those questions eventually took my work far beyond matchmaking.
My Work Today
Today, I bring together 18 years of professional experience in dating and relationships with sexology, sexuality counselling, attachment-informed work and therapeutic relationship coaching.
My work has evolved from helping people find relationships to exploring something deeper: how we create relationships that feel emotionally safe, sexually alive and genuinely aligned with who we are.
I work with singles navigating modern dating and recurring relationship patterns; individuals exploring attraction, attachment, sexuality, desire and intimacy; and couples wanting to reconnect emotionally and sexually.
My work is inclusive of different relationship structures, including consensual non-monogamy.
Sometimes our work is very practical: dating apps, communication, boundaries, difficult conversations or understanding what is actually happening in a relationship.
And sometimes we go deeper.
Into the patterns shaping who you desire. The difference between chemistry and emotional availability. How attachment and earlier relational experiences can show up in intimacy. Why desire changes. What happens when sex becomes complicated. Or why the relationship you consciously say you want can sometimes feel strangely unfamiliar when it finally appears.
I’m interested in the places where simple advice stops being enough.
What It Feels Like to Work With Me
My approach is warm, curious and direct.
Sometimes playful. And sometimes I may challenge you to question long-held beliefs about yourself, relationships or desire — in the best possible way.
I bring lightness into difficult topics, because conversations about sex, intimacy and relationships don’t always need to feel heavy.
This isn’t about fixing you or teaching you the “right” way to have a relationship.
It’s about becoming more aware of the patterns, desires and choices that shape your relationships — and creating more room for connection that feels conscious, alive and genuinely yours.
Professional Background
I bring 18 years of professional experience across dating, relationships and human connection.
My career began in London’s matchmaking industry, including 11 years as a Senior Matchmaker at Drawing Down the Moon and further work within the London dating industry.
I later moved into independent dating and relationship coaching before expanding my work through formal studies in sexology, sexuality counselling, attachment and therapeutic approaches to relationships.
My professional training includes:
Sexology & Sexuality Counselling — Sexpo Foundation, Finland
Dating & Relationship Coaching — including professional training with psychologist Jo Hemmings
Professional Coaching — The Coaching Academy, London
Attachment-informed practice — including specialist professional development in attachment, intimacy and couples work
Mindfulness-based approaches — applied to emotional awareness, sexuality, relationships and behaviour change
My continuing professional development has also included training and study through organisations and educators including NICABM, the Tavistock Centre and Juliet Grayson.
I am a member of the Finnish Association for Sexology (Suomen Seksologinen Seura) and serve on the board of Valve ry, Finland’s national sexual education network.
Alongside my private practice, I develop and deliver workshops and professional education around conscious dating, relationships, sexuality and the changing landscape of modern dating.
You can also find my professional practitioner profile on PsyShrink / TherapySicht.
My academic background began with a BA (Hons) in Mass Communication & Cultural Studies from London Metropolitan University — an early foundation for my longstanding interest in communication, culture and human behaviour.
A Little More Personal
I’m a curious yogi.
I’m endlessly interested in what makes us human — our contradictions, our desires, our capacity for connection and the stories we tell ourselves about love.
Having lived in London for more than two decades before returning to Finland, my perspective has also been shaped by different cultures, conversations and ways of relating.
I’m fascinated by the space where science meets embodiment — where attachment meets pleasure, and where strategy meets softness.
Because ultimately, I don’t think good relationships are simply about learning how to communicate better.
They’re about learning to know ourselves more honestly — what we desire, what we fear, what makes us come alive, and how we want to meet another person there.
That’s the work I care about.
Helping you create relationships that feel safe, alive and filled with conscious pleasure.